Dads dare.
Dads do. Consider how brave it is to be a good dad. What it takes. What the 'man' has to give up to be a good dad. Damn. It's a lot. Man stuff. Give it up, you're a dad, now. Be proud. It's the best, most challenging, most-in-your-face role you'll ever have. Dad. Congratulations, dad. Not too many are going to thank you, yet.
Dads are heroes for all of the right reasons.
Dads aren't nerds. Dads do nerdishness, just as they do great things, but by definition dads aren't nerds because dads have the ultimate purpose. To carry forth. To take forth; to be the future by helping children be prepared for the challenges they will face.
Ha. The future. Ten years ago? Find an iPod ad from the 90s. The future is not ours, it's theirs. My dad didn't blink, but he was random as a dad, too. Was he as responsible as he could have been? No. But he provided the freedom that built me.
I am my dad's extension. As are my children, and my grandchildren, and each of the 1000s of children I've worked with over the past 37 years.
Dads laugh.
They cry, too, but dads laugh, and more dads that can laugh with children then the better those children will be.
Laugh dad, laugh.
That's funny. Dad. Proudly. Laugh proudly, dad.
Wednesday, March 25, 2009
Tuesday, March 24, 2009
Doing includes not doing. There's some things dads don't do. Dads don't hurt children. Dads help children.
I was up for jury duty in Santa Barbara last year and the case involved domestic violence. The question from the attorney screening potential jurors, "When is violence toward a spouse justifiable?" How about never! "Pick me! Ask me! NEVER!" Not ever. He figured it out, his client had beat up his wife, and he was looking for someone other than me.
What say ye? I say 'Men' get angry, dads don't. Dads are better than that.
I say dads do not get angry at their children or the mother, because if they do they know they can't. Dads don't do anger, they figure out something else, because they know it's them, or the situation, but certainly not the child.
A dad who gets angry at a child knows its the dad, not the child. Otherwise that dad's not a dad, he's just a 'man.'
Because really, if violence is your last resort, then what are you doing in that resort? Go somewhere else. Get a new travel agent!
Dads don't do violence. They don't hit, strike, spank, threaten, intimidate, humilate, or in any shape or form attack their children, or their spouse. Dads don't do that. Dads do some things, but they don't do that.
Dads discover. Dads dig into situations and realize they have more to learn. Dads delve into the unknown and realize there's an alternative to hitting children. Dads do things but they don't strike children. Right, dad?
I was up for jury duty in Santa Barbara last year and the case involved domestic violence. The question from the attorney screening potential jurors, "When is violence toward a spouse justifiable?" How about never! "Pick me! Ask me! NEVER!" Not ever. He figured it out, his client had beat up his wife, and he was looking for someone other than me.
What say ye? I say 'Men' get angry, dads don't. Dads are better than that.
I say dads do not get angry at their children or the mother, because if they do they know they can't. Dads don't do anger, they figure out something else, because they know it's them, or the situation, but certainly not the child.
A dad who gets angry at a child knows its the dad, not the child. Otherwise that dad's not a dad, he's just a 'man.'
Because really, if violence is your last resort, then what are you doing in that resort? Go somewhere else. Get a new travel agent!
Dads don't do violence. They don't hit, strike, spank, threaten, intimidate, humilate, or in any shape or form attack their children, or their spouse. Dads don't do that. Dads do some things, but they don't do that.
Dads discover. Dads dig into situations and realize they have more to learn. Dads delve into the unknown and realize there's an alternative to hitting children. Dads do things but they don't strike children. Right, dad?
Monday, March 23, 2009
Dads. Dads do and they don't, and sometimes they should and others they shouldn't.
This is about what to do and why, and when, and not.
My dad did and didn't, and I have done and do, and now as a grandparent and lifetime educator with thousands of dads asking my advice I've decided to do this.
So, if you're a dad, or not, this could help. Or not.
Importantly, choosing to not do something is still doing something. It's still choosing, so it's more likely that other choices might be considered, too. Right?
This is about doing something. Doing, and hopefully it's the right thing to do, and often times the right thing to do ISN'T about or for the Dad, it's for others, especially for your children. Right, Dad?
This is about what to do and why, and when, and not.
My dad did and didn't, and I have done and do, and now as a grandparent and lifetime educator with thousands of dads asking my advice I've decided to do this.
So, if you're a dad, or not, this could help. Or not.
Importantly, choosing to not do something is still doing something. It's still choosing, so it's more likely that other choices might be considered, too. Right?
This is about doing something. Doing, and hopefully it's the right thing to do, and often times the right thing to do ISN'T about or for the Dad, it's for others, especially for your children. Right, Dad?
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